Fergienewbee
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My dad, 93, has been undergoing chemo for a blood myloma for the past couple of months. He's had some issues with his bowl functions--either constipation or diarhea. The doctor changed his meds to Medimusal and it seems to be working.
My brother called yesterday and asked if he thought it would help if he and his live-in came home and stayed til Dad gets on his feet.
My brother is 59 and his live-in is around 70. I think it's more of a surregate mom than a relationship. What raised a red flag is their apartment lease expires the end of the month and if they come back they won't renew their lease. My brother works for a temp service at minimum wage in Denver. He says he can do the same work here in Michigan.
My sister and my concerns are we don't know their finacial situation. Are they being evicted? Aslo have concerns about raiding Dad's bank account. That sounds cynical, but it has happened to others. Dad will need money if he has to eventually move to assisted living facilty. What is her health? Are we going to have to take care of her at some point? If Dad passes, how do we get them out of the house? Why wouldn't they sign their lease if they only planned to be here for a couple of months?
Dad's quite independent and she's quite bossy. I can see her taking over the furniture arrangement, food choices, etc. I think he would be miserable. My sister, me and nieces could check on him every day and help him run errands, etc. We're not comfortable with both of them coming back here. Any advice on how to deal with this? I'm not sure Dad would want them both here either.
Larry
My brother called yesterday and asked if he thought it would help if he and his live-in came home and stayed til Dad gets on his feet.
My brother is 59 and his live-in is around 70. I think it's more of a surregate mom than a relationship. What raised a red flag is their apartment lease expires the end of the month and if they come back they won't renew their lease. My brother works for a temp service at minimum wage in Denver. He says he can do the same work here in Michigan.
My sister and my concerns are we don't know their finacial situation. Are they being evicted? Aslo have concerns about raiding Dad's bank account. That sounds cynical, but it has happened to others. Dad will need money if he has to eventually move to assisted living facilty. What is her health? Are we going to have to take care of her at some point? If Dad passes, how do we get them out of the house? Why wouldn't they sign their lease if they only planned to be here for a couple of months?
Dad's quite independent and she's quite bossy. I can see her taking over the furniture arrangement, food choices, etc. I think he would be miserable. My sister, me and nieces could check on him every day and help him run errands, etc. We're not comfortable with both of them coming back here. Any advice on how to deal with this? I'm not sure Dad would want them both here either.
Larry